In view of the great interest in the first part of the seduction guide (read by over 900 people), I feel compelled to continue the topic. This time we will deal with the more difficult and definitely less pleasant issue:the breakup.
Given the great interest in the first part of the seduction guide (read by over 900 people), I feel obliged to continue the topic. This time we will deal with a more difficult and definitely less pleasant issue:the breakup.
Let's set sail right away and consider how - by the standards of the turn of the 19th and 20th centuries - you should cancel your engagement. At the outset, I would like to emphasize (as my own fiancée would have no doubts) that I am writing this only theoretically, I am not going to use the above-mentioned advice, and I am asking my chosen one for the same ...
As before, the advice comes from the Lovers' Guide, published in Warsaw in 1903 by a certain M.A. Zawadzki. When preparing to break up, first: Let us not forget that the weaker and in any case the aggrieved side is the miss, that breaking up with her fiancé puts her to the prey of malicious presumptions and bad human tongues . In a word - we will certainly come out of it without any loss, but the girl we break up with will suffer for many months and years. However, if we have made a decision, it's time to get down to business. The author clearly states: We think the breakup is best done by letter . This avoids unpleasant reproaches, even more unpleasant explanations, and often scenes.
What exactly should we write to our - now ex - beloved? Of course, you have to express regret and emphasize that you have been forced to take such a step. What's more - as Zawadzki states - you should fake your resolution enough . The possibilities are endless, so let's quote the whole fragment:
A young man may have come to the conviction, for example, that he does not love him, and he, not wanting to brutally use the word taken from her, returns it etc. He can make an excuse for not feeling the strength within himself to provide him with the happiness that such a noble being deserves and is entitled to; finally, she can admit that his character is incomparably lower in comparison with her qualities, and sees clearly in the sad self-knowledge that she would not be happy with him, etc.
The letter should be accompanied by an engagement ring (today the recommendation is rather unnecessary, because we would rather not give bachelors rings in the 21st century) in order to definitely exclude any attempts to reconcile, reconcile, clarify that could otherwise be made by the virgin or her parents . The same should be returned to the letters received from the current fiancée, especially if they are characterized by cordiality, and in her opinion could be dangerous for her.
Of course, we can expect reciprocity and ask for the return of the ring, letters sent to her, etc. insist, believing her word that she destroyed or destroyed the letters immediately: An honest and honorable person must not, under any circumstances, make the return of the maid's letters (possibly also a photograph) conditional on the return of letters written to her.
It is natural that one should never speak badly of an ex-fiancée in society. Zawadzki's councils, however, go further. The bachelor should preferably delete her name, surname and person completely from his memory and past. Every good and honorable maid does the same. Breaking up ultimately relieves you of the obligation to bow in the street, a bow even in this case would be an expression of mockery or disrespect - in every way inappropriate and offensive.
Ba! If only there is such a possibility, we should stop visiting the same places, participate in the same social groups and even: leave the city completely in which the ex-fiancée lives, and in this radical way, people, and above all, let her forget about herself.
Source:
M.A. Zawadzki, A lovers' guide, or how to get happiness in love and success in women , Iskry, Warszawa 2007 (see publisher's website).